Monday, 28 March 2011

THe One Where I Hate Being Right

There are times in your life when you hate to be right ....I didn't have to wait long for K to call. F

irst we had lunch on Saturday. She didn't mention anything about my email and I didn't force things, because I have learnt that people talk to you when they are good and ready.

So on Sunday morning when the phone rang at 08:15 I knew something was up. A phone call that early in the morning at BB Towers means somebody's made an arse of themselves the night before, there's a secret sample sale in town, or the one I dread the most - one of my friends has broken(I up with their other half.

I rolled across to pick up the phone receiver and growled

"This better be good whoever you are!" I said sleepily.
"Hi it's me" K whispered.

"OMG" I said trying to wake up, "You sound terrible, are you ok? What's wrong?"

"Is this how it feels like.....we broke up last night and it's for....for....good this time!"
, she said dissolving into a flood of tears.

Even if you're the best friend in the world, at a moment like that there isn't an awful lot you can say to make things better. So I did the only thing you can do, which is just listened and sympathised.

She told me everything and I mean everything...and even for a love 'specialist' like moi, I was surprised at how badly you can treat someone who loves you and still have them carry on doing so.

Toxic fixes and yes, we've all had one in our lives (if you've ever really been in love) are the worst break-ups to get over and the ones that have the biggest impact on us.

"Part of me is still thinking that I overreacted. Maybe I did the wrong thing? I did, didn't !?" K texted late last night.

If the one you love can't be real with you or is real with you and says all those things you don't want to hear

'I don't want to be in a relationship'

'I don't know what I want'

'I'm not ready',

Listen to what they're saying and then realise that they just ain't the one !

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